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A provocative, interdisciplinary investigation arguing that female infidelity is not a modern pathology but a natural, evolutionarily-adaptive behavior that challenges deeply ingrained cultural myths about female sexuality.

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What it’s about

In "Untrue," Wednesday Martin dismantles the pervasive and damaging myth that women are the more naturally monogamous sex. Marshalling evidence from primatology, anthropology, sociology, and the latest sex research, Martin argues that female desire for sexual novelty and variety is a powerful, autonomous, and deeply rooted biological trait. The book traces the historical suppression of female sexuality back to the dawn of agriculture, which created patriarchal systems to control women and ensure paternity. Through interviews with experts, everyday women, and explorations of phenomena from bonobo sexuality to modern polyamory, "Untrue" reframes the "adulteress" not as a moral failure, but as a brave, if sometimes conflicted, exemplar of female autonomy. This book is an essential read for anyone who wants to understand the true nature of female desire, question the foundations of modern relationships, and feel liberated from the cultural scripts that have kept women's sexuality hidden in darkness.

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Who it’s for
The reader is a woman who feels constrained by society's narrow definition of female sexuality. She may feel guilty about her fantasies, bored in her long-term relationship, or simply question whether the conventional script—that women want intimacy more than sex and are naturally monogamous—truly applies to her. She wants to understand her authentic desires and feel liberated from shame and confusion.
The problem
Society, science, and culture have long promoted a false narrative that women are inherently monogamous, less sexual than men, and primarily seek emotional connection, which conflicts with her own internal experience of desire. She feels confused, guilty, abnormal, or even pathological for having a strong libido, fantasizing about others, or feeling tempted to be unfaithful, leading her to believe there is something fundamentally wrong with her.
The plan
  1. Free your mind by deconstructing the scientific and cultural myths that underpin conventional notions of female sexuality.
  2. Understand the deep historical roots of female sexual control, particularly the impact of agriculture on social structures and gender roles.
  3. Discover what our primate relatives, like bonobos, reveal about the evolutionary basis for female sexual autonomy, assertiveness, and non-monogamy.
  4. Explore the modern landscape of relationships, including consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, as new expressions of female choice.
  5. Reclaim your personal narrative by embracing a new, evidence-based understanding of female desire, allowing you to make more authentic choices about your life and relationships.
The payoff
The reader feels liberated from guilt and shame, understanding that her desires for novelty and sexual satisfaction are normal and valid. · She becomes the empowered protagonist of her own sexual story, able to make conscious, authentic choices about her relationships and sexuality. · She develops a more profound sense of self-esteem and well-being, rooted in a true understanding of her own nature.

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